So then it makes me wonder why you haven't just ended things, unless of course you feel some attachment that prevents you from doing so. Two years is a decently long time at this age, but the freedom you will have afterward will perhaps be worth it.

This thread makes me laugh so hard.

Personally I'd wait until Thursday and bring all of it up then. However, if you guys have been going out for 2 years it'd be dumb if she decided to cheat on you. The concert thing is weird as hell and we all know girls aren't always the best people on earth.

But I love my dating advice. Just ask Ultimo.

This.

Especially how it began with "I'm uber awesome at dating and women, so you should come to me with all your problems." On a Starcraft website

I am currently with a girl, whom I've been with for a little over two and a half years. I have lost the 'special feeling' I used to get, from either being around her or knowing that she liked me. Not sure if everyone knows what kind of feeling I'm talking about, but think of the first time you found out a girl liked you. Now, it's a new kind of feeling, not necessarily a 'bad' feeling, yet more dull. I still have fun going over to her apartment, and look forward to the next time I'll be over there. Although, I'm usually happy about going over there because we're: ex. going to split a six pack and watch a movie, going to smoke weed and hang out, going to a movie.

This 'special feeling' isn't necessarily lost, however. Other girls, whom I've crushed on for years, still give me that feeling. The mere thought of being with them, or even talking to them, makes me feel this way to some degree.

Norm, am I being selfish? Is it an endless pursuit; would any girl I find eventually cease to give me this 'feeling'? Is this 'feeling' something that is left behind in my teenage years? Is it normal to lose this feeling after two and a half years? Is it a problem with me, and not the girl?

Farty's dating advice, though unused ultimately, was epic. The best advice I've ever heard is never date someone with more problems than you, because their problems will become your problems.

Halp!

Oh wait, I'm in a stable relationship and need not advice at the moment. I suppose something is going terribly wrong, similar to Aristocrat -something I'm completely ignorant of.

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This thread makes me laugh so hard.

Oh, I know. I'm using an example from roughly close to last year, just changed the dates around so they make sense

There are two main causes for the loss of 'this feeling' that I can think of.

First of all, you're getting older. As you enter your young adult years and are more experienced with relationships they will ultimately seem like less-of-a-big deal. For example, recall back to your teenage years when you were still a virgin. The thought of sex alone was enough to get a man excited. Fast forward a couple years into a relationship. Sex can become just another thing to do, especially if the two of you are alone with eachother too often with nothing better to do. "This feeling" - it's the feeling of a crush. Basically, the attraction is exaggerated in your head because of the fact that you don't have the girl. Once you reach a point in your relationship where you are comfortable and completely confident that your female isn't going anywhere, the thrill is lost. You basically don't have a crush on your female anymore because you're past that.

Alternatively, it could just be your mind telling you that it's boring. Some relationships burn out. Why? Because when you're with someone for so long, sometimes you just realize that they're not as interesting as they were before you knew everything about them. However, by the way you describe it, it sounds like you're more likely to fall into the first scenario.

Wikipedia once stated that some people feel that "crush" feeling toward others even though they really are in love with one specific person. Some dumbass edited the article, though, and I can't find the statement in the edit history. D:

I might like this random girl in my baking club, but how do I get to know her better? Every time I get to know a girl, we always manage to friendzone each other. She's a first year and I'm a third year, feels a bit odd to be honest.

How do I get past my misanthropic ways, my inability to see any reason behind being in a relationship, and lack of desire to engage in sexual actions? :\

I don't remember that. I just remember saying things like "OHEY, WHERE CAN I BUY ME SOME OF YOUR SHOES?" and "I GOT YOU THIS LOVELY ROTISSERIE CHICKEN. WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO OUT WITH ME?". Mostly just things that make people take my advice seriously.

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Best way to get to know a girl better is by talking to her. If you can't find anything to talk about now, then what the hell do you plan on talking about if you somehow manage to score a relationship? Even by engaging in small talk, you will be able to tell if she's into you at all just by the way she responds to what you say. Also, the best way to avoid friend zones is to not act like their friend >< However, don't forget that attraction can work both ways: Even if you totally act like a friend to a girl that is really attracted to you, she won't try to put you in the friend zone. In all honesty, the friend zone typically exists as a place to put guys that a girl finds undatable.

Also, a small age gap like that shouldn't matter in most cases, so just go with it anyway.


The best way is to try to understand exactly why you have misanthropic feelings, and just get over it.

Besides that, man it's justifiable that sometime there just isn't any reason to being in a relationship. From a technical standpoint, relationships, marriage, etc... all these things are inventions of the human mind and are in no way natural. However, if you lack the ability or desire to engage in sexual interaction, then you may just be defective biologically because animals are designed in a way to make the transfer of DNA from parent to offspring a top priority. This is completely unrelated to relationships in a natural sense (but highly related in a societal setting). To each his own, man.

Don't act like their friend? How else am I supposed to act? I'm just a friendly person D: Only problem is I never see her, should I go out of my way to find her? I hold small talk fine, but I don't see where the small talk leads into most of the time.

Yeah, going out of your way is fine. And small talk is only used to help you gauge if they're attracted to you or not. If not attracted, or preoccupied by more important things you can expect to be shrugged off, but if there is an attraction there, they will go out of their way to keep you talking to them once you lead in for them.

I genuinely feel like college students shouldn't get involved with high school students, because it's unfair the the high school student, and it's kinda creepy.

Still, there's a girl I'm talking to now that says she really likes me and wants to be with me. I tell her no, but she doesn't accept that. I tell her that I guess I'm ok with it, as long as she know's she can totally dump me at anytime for another guy her and I won't care. For some reason(and I have my guesses) this makes her fall more in love with me, want to marry me, and never ever ever even look at any other guy ever.

I recommend this to you poison.

Also, I ignore her alot, and never compliment her. I'm pretty sure that has a lot to do with it.

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I recommend this to you poison.

The ignoring, or the girl?

People always saying ignore the girl and just act non-nonchalant around them and they'll love you much more for it, but how true is this actually though?