Saving the items... so many memories. 2 years, was going to be 3 in november. It probably hurts the most because it's the longest relationship I've been in.
Your post has made me want to just let it go, relieve myself of this stress.
Sometimes it's the best thing to do. I've been in about 4 relationships and in only one of them do I look back and wonder what would've happened if we didn't leave each other. Also, I haven't gone out for more than 8 months with the same woman. Why? I'm a very straight forward guy who won't put up with no shit from nobody, especially in a relationship which are supposed to be about having a good time with your partner.
First relationship we just started losing contact. She lived far from campus and had some weird working schedule that made it real hard to compliment with my schedule. Why we left each other? We really weren't willing to have a talk over the phone and see each other every now a then kind of relation. It was really going to be a waste of time.
Second was the big one. I really loved this girl and I would consider her as near perfect as someone could get. She had the looks, personality, interests and pretty much everything I could hope for. We took our own summer courses that one summer, each of us had a hard class that demanded a lot of time, so we didn't have as much time as we would've liked to. I was studying pretty much all day with a female friend of mine who also runs Track & Field, she is like a sister to me, so nothing was going to happen. Problem was that my partner got really jealous, to the point where she didn't even want to meet my friend or anything. She'd only want to see me at her apartment out of fear that I might invite my friend or run into her. Problem is we started arguing a lot and in one heated argument decided that to be fighting all the time it's better to leave each other and get on with our lives. We still talk now and then and both of us always wonder what could have become of the relationship.
Third one was flat out crazy. After about 2 months she asked me if I would be willing to have a child with her. She kept insisting. The rest is pretty obvious.
Last one I have no clue how to categorize. I'd categorize her as a "Jíbara que no acepta lo que es" which could be translated as farm girl that doesn't accept what she is. Thing is she kept insisting that she was a city girl but she was born and raised in a very rural area. Here in Puerto Rico, there is a very big difference between people from the Metro area and those from the rural areas. She wanted me to treat her like a city girl, but made it impossible. A city girl is usually willing to do half the work. What I mean is that she will take the man out, she'll call him and buy him stuff once in a while. A rural girl, you have to always take her out, go to her house and pick her up, buy her things and such -- much more conservative is a way to put it. Anyways, she made it really hard on me. She expected me to treat like I would treat any other city girl, but then argued with me because I didn't do things which would be more orientated towards a rural-girl. It was a big complicated mess and we just stopped talking to each other.
Thing to learn about is don't be afraid to do what you feel you have to do. Just because you've been in a relationship for almost 3 years doesn't mean that you're committed to her, that's when marriage comes in. If you feel it won't work out, then end it. The idea of everything is to have fun and a good time. If you aren't having any of those two, then why are you in a relationship. An unhappy relationship isn't worth it. If you and her can fix it, then go ahead, if not, it could be time to move on.
EDIT: Damn my English sucks.
Post has been edited 1 time(s), last time on Jun 13 2010, 5:50 am by BeeR_KeG.
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