I'm going to draw a parallel between this argument of gender-neutrality and the social perceptions thereof, to the case of being born into a religion. Invariably, if your parents are religious, you will be brought up through either parental upbringing or education in the religion you 'belong' to. Is it right for a child who cannot understand religion, or the social perceptions and prejudicies which society hold, to be forcefully thrown into that religion? Of course not, but changing your religion is socially acceptable, whereas changing your gender is not.
In resume, you've got it all wrong. At least, there's hope for you to realize how you've misinterpreted what is actually going. This is not about preventing the child from having any gender.
I know it is not about preventing the child having a gender, but the entire concept misses the point I am making. Society will judge you, people will judge a book by its covers. Little boys do not play with dolls, because dolls are effeminate and therefore are played with by girls. Conversely, little girls don't play with toy guns and trucks since these are masculine. If you see a mum and dad walking down the street with a child in a pink dress, you immediately think 'its a girl'. Imagine if you knew the mum and dad in question and they were old neighbours of yours from years ago. So you go over and say hi, but on closer inspection the child in the dress is actually a boy. Your mind will formulate notions and judgements about these two parents. Why is their boy dressing like a girl?
I hope you realize that. This is a very dangerous way of thinking which directly interferes with possible progress.
My essential argument is that raising a child as 'gender-neutral' creates problems and nothing positive. Essentially it is a rebellious act of non-conformism which serves no immediate or perceivable goal other than separating yourself and your child from society.
Look at the picture on the article, read the caption. If you saw that 'brother', you would immediately have doubts as to his sexuality. The reason we have 'blue is for boys' and 'pink is for girls' is because children need affirmation and identity.
Why is this a bad thing?
Do you need to know someone's sexuality to address them as a person, or to know how to act towards them? I think the cultural imposition of modern gender norms is just idiotic, there's no reason to dychotomize gender into two polar opposites. Treating children differently because they're boys or girls just reinforces the stupid gender stereotypes we have to deal with. We don't need any of the pink/blue garbage, children need an identity that they create for themselves, not one that society imposes on them.
In short. Yes. Gender is embedded in our language, therefore communication becomes difficult if you do not know someone's gender. You basically can't use pronouns - which would suck. You need to know someones gender in order to know how to act towards them. If someone offends you and you get violent, you would feel bad if the person you were violent with turned out to be a girl. If someone takes a liking to you and shows a more than friendly interest in you - you would feel offended if you were straight and it turns out the person flirting with you was of the same sex.
Firstly, gender is embedded in language. "He went to the shop" and "She bought this for me", for example. By obfuscating your child's gender on the grounds that you do not wish to submit your child to the 'norms' of society is an incredibly selfish and non-progressive act. Imagine how others would have to tread over their words in conversing with or about someone without a known gender. Calling them 'it' would sound degrading, as 'it' refers to inanimate objects, and you wouldn't want to call a girl a boy, or a boy a girl because society defines us in these ways for the procreation of the human species.
Secondly, 'culture' is a social construction. We perceive our world through the lens of culture which interprets symbols of meaning. Again, blue is for boys and pink is for girls. This concept exists because an infant cannot understand gender, much as it cannot understand religion. You therefore affirm - for the child - that it is a boy or a girl through these pre-existing constructs. What good is it to completely hide all allusions to gender from your child, when it is inextricably a part of their humanity? See the last paragraph of my first post.
To solve the issue at hand, the stigma surrounding sex, homosexuality, trans-gender and trans-vestite should be broken down at the societal level. This would allow a child to be born truly free. The solution is not to simply choose not to disclose your childs gender, deprive it of the symbolisms and knowledge (which society provides), and go 'meh we'll see what happens'.
(it's 2am here, can't really argue properly, meh)
At least eZterix understands.
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