You are 18.
You regularly visit your friend's apartment down the street, and hang out there almost everyday. Your friend has lots of people over all the time, so the place is usually pretty full of people during the day. Your friend's apartment happens to be directly across from this guy named Jack. Jack is an older (older by about 5 years) guy. You, your friends, and Jack all attend the same school.
There is this girl named Jan who goes to your college, and she is amazingly classy and rather attractive. You and your friends like to joke around with her about how distinctly classy she is. Jan is actually also about 5 years older than you, and seems fairly responsible; everyone loves Jan. Jan also has a boyfriend that looks like Paul McCartney, so Jan is an uber awesome person. It's too bad that you've never met this Pail McCartney in person, because it would be awesome to talk with him (though you have seen him in real life before, and he does look like Paul McCartney!). It is important to note that you don't know Jan very well directly, as you have no classes with her, though you have friends that have a lot of classes with her, particularly your girlfriend.
Jack starts making comments about how he wants to have get together with Jan, and also makes comments about how even though she's in a relationship with Paul McCartney, that there are still "cracks in every relationship". This is absurd, because classy is defined as "Jan".
Later, Jack starts having sex with a pretty slutty girl, and Jack shows that he's.. Well he's horny. This makes you think that Jan is way too good for Jack.
Your friend that also attends school lets you know about how Jack treats women, and you hear things that are very surprising to you, as Jack always seems so nice to you. Jack treats women like tools for sex, and consistently makes comments to people like "Women are the easiest things in the world to manipulate." This seems weird to you, as you are friends with Jack (not close friends by any means), but he's really nice and mannered to you.
One day, you hear some outlandish rumors from some of the people that consistently hang out at your friend's apartment, about how they saw Jan and Jack together very late at night (since Jack lives directly across, as in his front door is right next to your friend's front door). This is disheartening, because Jan is just too attractive for Jack, and way too classy. Well, you suppose she isn't classy anymore.
Jan is posting all over Jack's wall on Facebook, so much so that anyone who has heard the rumor will immediately face palm themselves. Jan starts posting up love songs about giving in to your feelings, and about not being able to say no.
Jan makes a comment to your girlfriend during school about how "After some time in a relationship, you can just lose that spark, and the other person gets boring." You assume that Jan must be referring to Paul McCartney.
It is obvious that Jan is or will be in the near future cheating on Paul McCartney.
You regularly visit your friend's apartment down the street, and hang out there almost everyday. Your friend has lots of people over all the time, so the place is usually pretty full of people during the day. Your friend's apartment happens to be directly across from this guy named Jack. Jack is an older (older by about 5 years) guy. You, your friends, and Jack all attend the same school.
There is this girl named Jan who goes to your college, and she is amazingly classy and rather attractive. You and your friends like to joke around with her about how distinctly classy she is. Jan is actually also about 5 years older than you, and seems fairly responsible; everyone loves Jan. Jan also has a boyfriend that looks like Paul McCartney, so Jan is an uber awesome person. It's too bad that you've never met this Pail McCartney in person, because it would be awesome to talk with him (though you have seen him in real life before, and he does look like Paul McCartney!). It is important to note that you don't know Jan very well directly, as you have no classes with her, though you have friends that have a lot of classes with her, particularly your girlfriend.
Jack starts making comments about how he wants to have get together with Jan, and also makes comments about how even though she's in a relationship with Paul McCartney, that there are still "cracks in every relationship". This is absurd, because classy is defined as "Jan".
Later, Jack starts having sex with a pretty slutty girl, and Jack shows that he's.. Well he's horny. This makes you think that Jan is way too good for Jack.
Your friend that also attends school lets you know about how Jack treats women, and you hear things that are very surprising to you, as Jack always seems so nice to you. Jack treats women like tools for sex, and consistently makes comments to people like "Women are the easiest things in the world to manipulate." This seems weird to you, as you are friends with Jack (not close friends by any means), but he's really nice and mannered to you.
One day, you hear some outlandish rumors from some of the people that consistently hang out at your friend's apartment, about how they saw Jan and Jack together very late at night (since Jack lives directly across, as in his front door is right next to your friend's front door). This is disheartening, because Jan is just too attractive for Jack, and way too classy. Well, you suppose she isn't classy anymore.
Jan is posting all over Jack's wall on Facebook, so much so that anyone who has heard the rumor will immediately face palm themselves. Jan starts posting up love songs about giving in to your feelings, and about not being able to say no.
Jan makes a comment to your girlfriend during school about how "After some time in a relationship, you can just lose that spark, and the other person gets boring." You assume that Jan must be referring to Paul McCartney.
It is obvious that Jan is or will be in the near future cheating on Paul McCartney.
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So now here is my question: What would you SENers do in this situation? I want to know how you would proceed. Would you SENers just go on with your life, taking the stance that "None of that is really my buisiness", or would you let Paul know what the hell is going on?
Imagine that you are in Paul's situation, would you want someone to let you know that Jan might be cheating on you?
Lastly? Why did you give the response you did? I'd like a discussion, not a list of what people would choose.
I ask this, because I'm in this situation right now, and would like to discuss the whole thing. Of course, Jan and Jack are dummy names, although they are really close to the real names of these real people.
For reference, here is my girlfriend's viewpoint as she knows Jan rather well:
My girlfriend knows Jan pretty well, as they have all the same classes together. My girlfriend absolutely hates Jack for how he treats people, particularly girls that Jack thinks are attractive. My girlfriend is pretty disheartened that someone so allegedly classy is so non-classy. Basically, my girlfriend is pretty disappointing in Jan (and likes to jokingly say that all women are evil now), and thinks that Jack is a total asshole whore. She also feels terribly bad for Paul, and thinks that Jan doesn't even deserve to be in a relationship at all.
Post has been edited 8 time(s), last time on Oct 18 2010, 9:26 pm by CecilSunkure.
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