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Time: Aug 31 2010, 2:36 am

Post #1     OlimarandLouie Aug 31 2010, 2:36 am

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Post #2     HCM™Aristocrat Aug 31 2010, 2:42 am

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The success of a date varies inversely with how much you worry about it.

If I may quote my ex: "go wherever your heart desires."

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Post #3     UnholyUrine Aug 31 2010, 2:46 am

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BWAAAAAHAhahahahaha HA HA HA HA HA HEHEHEH EH EEEH Heeehheeee *cough cough*

srsly?

Scott pilgrim's an excellent choice unless the girl you're dating's a slob/bitch ...

Hiding things won't help.. so just say w/e...

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Post #4     MadZombie! Aug 31 2010, 2:50 am

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Ahahahaha. I love the use of the collapse box and bbc. Okay let me srs.

Bring cash like twice as much as you intended to spend for yourself because your paying for everything bro, but I think you knew that. I have no clue if your friend bringing you is going to hurt you but unless your going out with miss popular it's not a big deal. srsly. In case it bothered you.

Truthfully going to the movies is like the worst possible way to get to know someone. I mean actually watching it. Hopefully it's not a:

>Go to movies
>Movie over
>Drop her off
>The night ends

Hopefully you picked a theaters thats apart/attached to a mall or something. tbh unless the movies srsly engaging (If shes a geek she might. Probably not) theirs goign to be this constant air of "shouldnt we be talking to each other or something? Thats what people do on dates and stuff right? Oh dear... " while you guys sit in the dark.

tl;dr I HOPE YOU DON'T INTEND TO SPEND THE DATE WITH HER SITTING NEXT TO YOU WHILE YOU WATCH A MOVIE THEN GTFO. SHE WONT ASK YOU TO COME UPSTAIRS FOR COFFEE IF YOU DO BRAH.

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Post #5     Azrael Aug 31 2010, 3:01 am

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The more you try to act a certain way, the more awkward you'll come off. Just act natural. If she likes you, as you say, then you're already doing something right. Go with what feels right, there's a certain flow you need to pick up on, you should be able to tell when you're doing a good job. Basically, act naturally. That's all you have to do.

If you think too much about it, or worry a lot, or consider each action you're going to be making under a microscope, things will turn out badly just because you won't be acting naturally. You just need to have some confidence, or at least fake the confidence for now. After a while the confidence will come naturally and you won't have any idea what you were so worried about.

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Bring cash like twice as much as you intended to spend for yourself because your paying for everything bro, but I think you knew that.
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Hopefully you picked a theaters thats apart/attached to a mall or something.

These are both good tips for a successful date. I'd say bring more than twice the cash because you never know what kind of opportunities might present themselves. You don't want to be in a position where you're thinking, "Damn, I wish I had just brought a little more money with me so we could do X." You also don't want to have to use an ATM during the date.

By the way, a good topic to casually mention at some point is something regarding the car situation. You know, like, something to indicate you won't be needing your friend to drive you around forever, that you'll have your own license and car sometime in the foreseeable future. It's not something you want to force into the conversation, but if you have the chance then it certainly won't hurt your cause.

You also want to consider getting on the fast track to actually having a license and car of your own. You need to get a permit. You're getting to an age where not being able to drive will start seriously affecting your ability to date. At some point it will just become too much of an inconvenience for one of the people involved (either her or the driver).

When you ask her to go, you want to try to do it casually like it's not a big deal. Work that into the conversation however you can. Whatever you do, don't act awkwardly or shy while you're asking her, get all of that out of your system before you approach her. No stammering, no stalling, once you're face to face with her you need to just ask her casually like it's not a big deal. "Hey, what do you think about catching a movie this weekend? Let's say Saturday." Something like that, just be nonchalant.

Edit: Just want to reiterate that the number one thing you can do wrong is acting like you're trying too hard. You really just need to act natural, be yourself. Don't scrutinize your actions too much. You don't want to seem desperate to impress her.
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Post #6     Morphling Aug 31 2010, 3:11 am

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Perfect advice! ^^


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Post #7     MadZombie! Aug 31 2010, 3:17 am

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Personally being the underage jobless guy that I am I'd bring ALL the money I have. If your like me do the same. nuff said about money. You know what else is a cool thing to do? Touching. When you say "Hey" in a way to get her attention also touch her shoulder or something. When your standing next to each other and theirs an awkward silence you can always shove her lightly with your body while you say your generic line to try and break the silence ("So yea..." "yep..." "Nice weather I tell you whot")

I like this thread.

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Post #8     Morphling Aug 31 2010, 3:19 am

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Oh I forgot one other thing! If it ever gets far this will be perfect.


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Post #9     OlimarandLouie Aug 31 2010, 3:26 am

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She's modest.
As am I.

Also, she's 15.

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Post #10     rayNimagi Aug 31 2010, 3:27 am

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I feel compelled to reiterate:

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You're asking SEN for advice on women? :wut:

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Post #11     Jack[RCDF Aug 31 2010, 3:30 am

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I feel compelled to reiterate:

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You're asking SEN for advice on women? :wut:
He's not the first, he won't be the last, and SOME people on SEN actually know what they're talking about when it comes to wimminz.

Red classic.


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Post #12     Morphling Aug 31 2010, 3:30 am

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Sorry about posting the videos. I just couldn't resist.

In all seriousness just be confident and if you can't, try and fake confidence, but don't be cocky.

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Post #13     Azrael Aug 31 2010, 3:33 am

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In all seriousness just be confident and if you can't, try and fake confidence, but don't be cocky.
Yeah, this is pretty much the short version of what you should be doing.

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Post #14     OlimarandLouie Aug 31 2010, 3:33 am

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Almost forgot the most important detail of them all:
She's slightly into RTS games.

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Post #15     Centreri Aug 31 2010, 3:35 am

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"Hey, wanna play SCII sometime?" :wtfawesome:

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Post #16     Norm Aug 31 2010, 3:36 am

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Almost forgot the most important detail of them all:
She's slightly into RTS games.

Avoid at all costs.

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Post #17     payne Aug 31 2010, 3:52 am

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tl;dr I HOPE YOU DON'T INTEND TO SPEND THE DATE WITH HER SITTING NEXT TO YOU WHILE YOU WATCH A MOVIE THEN GTFO. SHE WONT ASK YOU TO COME UPSTAIRS FOR COFFEE IF YOU DO BRAH.
I realize that's exactly what I did for my first date. :><:
... the relation ended up pretty badly, indeed. :P

I personally am a romantic, a "nice guy", and I indeed haven't gotten much on the relationship-side, but I can swear I've had the best girld-friends on earth (girl-friends as in... a friend that is a girl). ^^

Anyways, at the end of the movie, bring her to a park. It'll be:
1) A great time to talk to each other.
2) A good excuse from her to take your hand: she'll be scared. >:D

No but seriously, the darker the park is, the most chances you'll get to actually "make a move". Darkness gives confidence too, and is kind of a self-excuse to do some things we'd be shy of when under a light, in front of a whole society watching us.

Once you're done with the walk in the park, do anything you have to to bring her right at her door. I remember missing the last metro and jogging 13 Km to get back to my house at my first date... and I know I had scored a very, -very-, good point in her head. :awesome:
When she's about to leave you, there will obviously be a moment for a hug (there always is one!): take your chance and hug her. When starting to "unhug", it's time to go for a quick kiss. Beware:
If kiss happens, say "I love you" and leave somewhat quickly. If kiss doesn't happen, say "Cya" and still leave quickly.
The hug must be the sign of the end of her awesome night. :3

Well, that's my romantic way to see it, and that's exactly how it happened with my ex-gf. :wub: :blush:

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Post #18     Jack[RCDF Aug 31 2010, 3:55 am

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and that's exactly how it happened with my ex-gf.

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Post #19     Azrael Aug 31 2010, 3:58 am

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She's slightly into RTS games.
She could be slightly into sadomasochism, doesn't matter. Same advice applies regardless of her interests.

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Post #20     Fire_Kame Aug 31 2010, 4:00 am

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To topic: Damn. This shit writes itself.

To OP: sounds like a good plan. Tell me how it goes. :)

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